Figured out the booms
Ha! I figured it out! I may save this friendship yet!
So, Jessica and I get on each other's nerves more than two people who call each other good friends should. It's always been this way, since fourth grade, actually. We spend a lot of time together, everythings going well, then BOOM! and nothing's going well, and we're mad at each other, and grrrrrrrrrrrrrr. Ffft!
What I find most strange about this phenomenon is that this doesn't happen with any other friend. Or maybe it does and I'm oblivious to it, but I don't think so.
What I do think, however, is that I may have finally figured out why this is, at least from my side of the isssue.
I'm an introvert. There's no denying this. This is no surprise to anyone who knows me, even in the most casual sense. As much as Kris tells me I'm a social butterfly (on the ultimate field), or I work at being able to talk to anyone, initiate conversations and enjoy myself in large crowds, I'm still that introvert.
And in being that introvert, I desperately need time to myself. It's one of the fundamental traits of an introvert: not only the ability to be by oneself, but also the craving for solitude and the need for alone time, the time that keeps us balanced. Without that time, we go crazy.
Or, in my case, BOOM.
Jessica and I see so little of each other that when one of us visis, we try to cram as much as possible into the three, four, five days we have together.
Problem is, that's a bit longer than I can go without downtime.
So, next time Jessica visits, or I head out to Indiana and catch her when she's working local, I'm going to make sure we schedule some alone time for me, some putzing time, where she's out and about without me, and I'm home doing nothing of any consequence and just recharging.
I think this change will drastically help us minimize those BOOMs.