No, really.


Well, shit.

With this goal of "read more" my site has become a book review site.

Which, again, bites.

Really, I've been doing more than just read books. I've been uh.... writing one! Co-authoring, actually. It's going to be great, if only because of the intense work, and the hack-days approach of GETTING SHIT DONE that is just so awesome.

I've also dealt with the house, oh god, overwhelming the house. In doing so, I managed to address a conflict head-on, which worked out pretty well. I've been trying the discussion techniques presented in Crucial Conversations, and really appreciate how much they have helped me in conflict resolution as well as personal well-being. I'm not at 100% excellent, but I'm closer to being able to have conversations when I'm 98% pissed off, which IS excellent progress.

Moleskine Quality Assurance stickers


In each pack of two pocket sized Moleskines, there's a Moleskine brochure and a quality assurance sticker. The first one I noticed I stuck in the first page of the book. The next couple I received I thought, "Cute. Blue," stuck the sticker in the book, made a note that it cracked me up, and that's about it. Today, as I went to pick out my next everyday book color, I noticed the sticker was green. It prompted me to look at the stickers in the other books.

They have different patterns.

Return random records in MySQL


Works only for relatively small tables.

SELECT field1, field2, field3 FROM mytable WHERE status = 1 AND otherfield = 'somevalue' ORDER BY RAND();

One of many sources:

Well, well, well, look at that


Even the suburbs has entertainment on some days.

Doyle and I were talking about something at work, when he perked up, pointed at me and said, "Hey! Look at that!" I took a moment's pause before I realized he was pointing over my shoulder and out the office window. That pause was longer than the one I took to grab my camera and start taking photos.

Various endings

Various endings and their sources

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-sterNapsterFriendster, Dogster
-z0rAndy Smithandyz0r, blogz0r, kittz0r
-zillaMozilla?Bugzilla, Hudzilla

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How to Create a Habit

Book page

From: http://www.fiu.edu/~oea/fiuspring2003/online%20library/articles/daily%20activities%20to%20help%20change%20habits.htm

How to change a habit

How To Change A Habit

Experts agree it takes 21 days to break a bad habit and form a new one.

Daily Activities To Help Change Habits
"I should change, but I've tried and failed." Does this sound familiar? Often, changing habits does seem insurmountable. Many of us simply don't have enough motivation to change our habits - all of our bad habits - in a way that would truly affect our health. We cling to them because we see them as rewards. 

But your habits determine your health. Below is a strategy and focus on daily activities to help you change and eliminate bad habits.

It Takes 21 Days To Break A Bad Habit
To begin with, choose one unhealthy habit you wish to eliminate or change. Or, choose a healthy habit you want to adopt as part of your behavior. If it is a habit to eliminate, you may wish to go "cold turkey" or have a gradual tapering off. Caution: If it is a drug or chemical habit you are planning on eliminating, be sure to obtain an expert's opinion as to whether you need to taper off usage as opposed to quitting cold turkey.

Now that you have decided which unhealthy habit to eliminate, or new habit to adopt, decide on the date you will begin your behavior change. Give this date a good deal of thought and then write it down. For example, "On February 15, 2001, I will become a non-smoker."

In order to ensure behavior change, experts agree that it takes a minimum of 21 days to change a behavior. Again, look at the date you are planning on changing your habit. Count ahead 21 days and mark that date down. Now, make a commitment that you will follow your plan for 21 days. 

Helpful Suggestions

Your target date has arrived. It is the first day of your 21-day cycle. Here are some helpful suggestions for habit change:

  1. Write down your goal. There is magic in the written word when it applies to you. Experts recommend stating your goal in positive terms, such as "I want to be lean and physically fit," instead of "I've got to get this flabby body out there huffing and puffing." So, begin with writing down, as a positive goal, the habit you will change.

  2. List your reasons for changing or eliminating your habit. Writing it down will force you to think out in specific terms what this habit represents in your life and the meaning you believe your life will hold for you upon changing the habit. This will also help with your commitment toward taking positive action.

  3. Find substitute routines. For example, if you are changing eating habits and you have identified a particularly difficult time of the day when eating habits are poor, create an activity, a new routine for that time.

  4. Talk to yourself. Tell yourself you're making progress. Remind yourself that you are moving closer to your goal.. Talk to yourself throughout the day about how you are going to avoid triggers that can get you off track and make healthy substitutes. 

  5. Recruit helpers for support. Explain to them why you are making this change. Ask for their support. Their support may be needed encouragement.

  6. Be prepared for people who may sabotage your change. Be assertive and tell them what they are doing.

Sustaining Motivation

The following are some suggestions to follow each day in order to sustain motivation and determination:

  1. Review your list of reasons for quitting or changing.

  2. Create mental pictures of yourself as having already succeeded with your habit change.

  3. Make affirmations, positive self-statements about your habit change. For example, "I am filled with so much health and vitality now that I exercise four times a week."

  4. Reward yourself. Make up a list of self-rewards. Reward yourself verbally.

  5. Remember to take one day at a time. If you do backslide, don't label yourself as having failed. Get out your list or reasons for quitting or changing and begin again.

Fatigue, boredom, depression, stress can all make it difficult to stick with your program. But having a relapse isn't as important as how you deal with the relapse. If you are so devastated by failure that you call your good intentions into question, that will make habit change harder for you. But, if you allow for an occasional relapse and treat it as nothing more than a slight misstep that teaches you something, then you're on the right track.

Follow the suggestions in this article, adopt the more helpful attitude of evaluating your progress and accepting relapses, and you will find yourself reaching many of your goals. You will have achieved true behavior change.

Defense hurts.

Book page

From http://sports.espn.go.com/espn/page2/story?page=neel/040614

By Eric Neel
Page 2

AUBURN HILLS, Mich. -- Defense is a mother.

Defense hurts.

There's no glory in it. There's no rest. There's no air in your lungs and there are all kinds of burn in your legs.

Defense measures you, from scrambling feet to searching eyes to beating heart. It takes all you have and asks for more, and it won't reward you until you're spent, and sometimes not even then.

You want to play defense -- I mean really play it -- then you have to make like the old-time saints, maintaining faith and be willing to sacrifice and endure anything and everything with nothing but the promise, the hope, of deliverance.

Scoring says what you can do. Shutting the other team down, closing lanes, contesting passes and shots, and letting them know, by the way you breathe up into them and stare right through them, that you're in it for the long haul ... that says who you are.


"It's tough to come out of your comfort zone," Dumars says. "We all live in a box in this world. We are who we are for the most part, and to have somebody come in and say, 'I want you to do, and to be, something different and I want you to do it in front of 20 thousand people every night,' that's not easy, man."

Eric Neel is a regular columnist for Page 2. He will file daily from the NBA Finals, and his "On Baseball" column appears weekly during the baseball season.

Planting sunshine

From http://www.bhg.com/bhg/story.jhtml?storyid=/templatedata/bhg/story/data/yellow_flowers_032904.xml

Planting Sunshine with Yellow Flowers

Don't be afraid of the boldness of yellow in your garden. Embrace its sunny disposition.

Yellow can be brash and bold, but it deserves a place in every
yard. When used sparingly and in combination with contrasting
colors, this golden hue can light up a garden. You can intensify
yellow's bold tendencies by pairing it with red, orange, or
lavender. Or group it with pink or green for a more subtle

Hues of yellow are at their best in the spring, fall, and
winter. The blazing summer sun often causes yellow to appear
washed-out and drab. The lower light intensity of the other three
seasons is friendlier toward golden hues and they respond by
practically glowing.

Spring abounds with yellow. From cheery daffodils to tiny
crocus peeking through the snow, bulbs offer many yellow hues.
Shrubs such as forsythia can also be counted on for yellow spring

Summer offers up many yellow annuals and perennials,
including yarrow (Achillea millefolium), sunflowers
(Helianthus), sundrops (Oenothera perennis), and

Fall is ablaze with yellow leaf color. For yellow flower
color, look to coneflower (Rudbeckia), tickseed
(Coreopsis), and goldenrod (Solidago).

Winter is a time when colorful yellow barks really shine.
Dogwood (Cornus stolonifera 'Flaviramea') and willow
(Salix alba var. vitellina) both have yellow winter shoots.
And when left standing, ornamental grasses will turn a deep gold

The Yellow Top 10

When you want yellow in the garden, you have a wide variety of
annuals and perennials to choose from. Here are our picks for the
easiest to grow:

  • Zinnia (Zinnia elegans). This cut-flower favorite
    is easy to grow from seed sown in the garden, and stands up well to
  • Black-eyed Susan vine (Thunbergia alata).
    Although it resembles its earth-bound cousin, this fast-growing
    vine produces flowers from spring through fall.
  • Pot marigold (Calendula officinalis), an
    orange-yellow cool-season annual.
  • Dalberg daisy (Thymophylla tenuiloba). This
    ferny-leafed annual produces cheery yellow blooms all summer.
  • Basket of gold (Aurinia saxatilis). Low-growing
    plant covered with tiny gold flowers in early spring.
  • Primrose (Primula auricula). In cooler climates,
    grow these as annuals for summer bloom. In the far south, they
    bloom throughout the winter.
  • Cushion spurge (Euphorbia polychroma). This
    low-maintenance summer-flowering perennial features blue-green or
    variegated leaves that look great even when the attractive flowers
    are done blooming.
  • California poppy (Eschscholzia calilfornica).
    This spring-blooming flower is grown as an annual in most
    locations. It is most at home in a rock garden or naturalized in a
  • Leopardsbane (Doronicum). Pretty yellow
    daisy-like flowers appear in May. During hot weather, the plant may
    appear to die back, but it will return.
  • Painted tongue (Salpiglossis sinuata). Imagine
    petunia flowers with veins of contrasting color running through the
    blooms and you'll have a picture of this annual.

Words of wisdom from my female friends

Here are the pearls of wisdom I received at my bachelorette party from my female friends. It's been a long time since the party. Lisa hosted it. It was a great party.

  • The way to a man's heart is through is stomach
  • Life is funny. Laugh together often.
  • Make sure you each have "alone time." Very important!
  • Be selective about the sentimental items from his past that you allow him to keep.
  • Hiring a cleaning person will help you maintain a happy, healthy marriage.
  • His favorite move is "plaid schoolbus." Trust me.
  • Smooch often!
  • Don't argue over dirty dishes.
  • Hire a cleaning lady!
  • Talk about it! (Don't mind-read - ask!)
  • Keep track of your underwear!
  • Don't surface too quickly.
  • Sing like no one is listening.
    Love like you'll never be hurt.
    Dance like no one is watching.
    Live like heaven on Earth.
  • Be comfortable enough to fart in his presense. But don't abuse the privilege.
  • Always remember your love will help you overcome any obstacle between you and Kris.
  • I'll give you some advice for your man,
    Let him scrub every dish, cup and pan.
    When it comes to your cooch,
    Don't be a mooch,
    Let him linger as long as he can.
  • Argue naked.
  • Hold hands every day.
  • Happiness is a pedicure after an ultimate tournament. Happy feet equals a happy marriage.
  • Always make time for at least one date night a week.
  • Surprise each other!

Bobby & Ameeta

> Hey Kris --
> How was the honeymoon?  Do you have some online photos
> somewhere?
> Here's the news on my end:
> - We finally bought a place in Los Altos:
> xxx xxxxxxxxx xxx
> Los Altos, CA 94022
> We're doing some kitchen renovations, so we won't move
> in for about 4-5 months, but tomorrow, I'm having our
> stuff taken out of storage, and dumped in our home
> temporarily.  Although we're still in a rental in
> Indian Creek, you'll have to come over to see the new
> place in Los Altos some time.
> - Big news -- we're expecting!  December 5 is the
> current due date.  We're very excited, and hoping that
> things go smoothly between now and then.
> Drop me a note when you get a chance and let me know
> how things are going on your end.
> Cheers,
> Bobby