Doing a favor
Inspired by a post from Tara, I went to go look up my M.... personality style. I've taken this test many times before. I know, however, that, if a person works at it, he can change his personality and mannerisms to express a different personality type. Although I can't walk into a party and work the room the way Ben can, at least I'm not the wallflower I was in high school, and can be fairly comfortable in a crowd.
So, I went to take the personality test to see if indeed, I had changed.
Part of the problem with taking personality tests that ask questions about yourself is that sometimes, depending on how the question is worded, you don't know the answer about yourself. Your friends or family can answer the question immediately and without any consideration, as they know you from the outside. From the inside, things aren't always so clear.
After I finished the test (discovering that I am, at this point, a slightly expressed ENTJ, the first time I'm not fundamentally an INTJ), Kris asked to take the test, too. Since the question was 72 questions long, I handed him my computer and waited for him to take the test.
He, too, had to ask me for help on some questions about how I perceived him, just as I had to ask how he perceived me. At some point, he asked me what I thought his yes/no answer should be to the statement, "You give freely to others asking nothing in return."
I said no, that wasn't necessarily the case. People had to ask him, and, well...
"If I'm doing you a favor, make it easy for me," he commented.
Yup. Exactly.